And today we’re going to be talking about something that I’m sure a lot of you guys have problems having a conversation with someone.
Let me ask you a question:
Have you ever had a hard time coming up with things to talk about? Your brain ever just freeze and you end up with a long, awkward silence?
Well today I’m going to be sharing with you four extremely powerful topics that you can talk to just about anyone.
Learning and using these four topics will allow you to build large amounts of rapport with just about anyone and will also allow you to create long lasting friendships.
An easy way to remember these four is through an acronym I like to call “FORD”. So let’s jump right into it.
F stands for Family.
Everyone has some sort of family. They are an integral part of our lives. They are the first people that we get to know, and for that reason, we hold a special place in our hearts for them.
Studies have found time and time again that when people share family related matters with strangers, they feel significantly closer to them afterwards. Now, the main problem with speaking about family is that it can sometimes come off very strong if you ask someone about their family upfront.
What you need to do instead is branch the conversation in a way so that the topic of family naturally pops up.
Here’s two way to go about doing this: The first is by talking about your family first.
Let’s say, for example, you’re at a party and you’re talking with some girl, and you notice there’s a very loud, excited guy on the dance floor. You could say something like this: “You see that guy over there? He really reminds me of my older brother, who’s always energetic and not afraid to let loose.
I feel like older siblings are always like that. Do you have any siblings?” By saying something like this, you direct the conversation towards family and you also make the initiative to open up first. This gives her an opportunity to talk about her siblings without having to have her guard up.
If she doesn’t have any siblings, you could say something along the lines of, “Oh, do you ever wise you had one?” Again, the conversation is re-directed towards family, and the transition seems smooth.
Now the second way to get someone to talk about their family is by using what are called “non-sequiturs.
” Basically, assumptions that you make about someone.